Mental Health

Posted by Karen Young

Dealing with Anxiety: Using the Strength of an Anxious Mind to Calm Anxiety

An anxious mind is a strong, powerful mind, as anyone who has tried to rationalise themselves out of anxiety will tell you. An anxious mind can outrun, outpower and outwit rationality and logic any day of the week. What if you could harness the strength and power of that fiercely protective mind and use it to work for you instead of against you? 

Anxiety exists on a spectrum and we all experience it at some level. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. Anxiety is a very normal response from a strong, healthy brain that thinks there might be trouble about, and instantly responds by making us stronger, faster, more powerful, more alert versions of ourselves.

Like any good thing though, too much is too much. When the brain is oversensitive to threat, it puts us on high alert even when there is no need to be. This is when anxiety becomes intrusive and hard to live with. It turns from the gentle security guard who shows up when needed, to the crasher who steals the joy, tells stories about nameless dangerous things, and cozies up beside you so close it’s hard to breathe, think and be.

Why is anxiety so powerful?

Anxiety is there to keep us safe. It is a call to action to fight or flee so we can move through danger.It’s there to keep us out of the way of trouble so the signals it sends have to be strong. The problem is that those signals aren’t always accurate. Anxiety is instinctive and automatic. It’s been practising its moves for thousands of years. That’s the thing about evolution – sometimes it works for us, sometimes it makes us vulnerable to anxiety. 

Anxiety was never meant to get in our way, but rather, to get us out of the way of danger. The part of the brain that drives anxiety thinks it’s doing the right thing. The more we fight it, the harder it will work to convince us that there’s danger and that we need to act. 

So if fighting an anxious mind doesn’t work, what then?

We know that an anxious mind is a strong, powerful mind. What if we could harness the strength and power of that fiercely protective mind and use it to work for us instead of against us? As strong as a mind can be in its experience of anxiety, it can be equally strong in calming it. Anxiety might still show up, but rather than appearing as the wolf at the door and sending your fiercely protective brain into a panic, it can be greeted more in the way of, ‘Oh hey there – I know you. Take a seat over there.’

We know that over time, mindfulness works to build and strengthen a brain against anxiety, but there are aspects of mindfulness that can be used in the midst of anxiety to find calm. With practice, they can be called on at will to turn down the volume on anxious thoughts and feelings, and any other symptoms that anxiety tends to keep company with. 

But go gently …

Changing mindset involves small, repeated steps. Each step builds on the one before it, and this takes time. That’s okay though – there’s no hurry. Remember, your mind has been doing what it’s doing for a while and it will take a while to unlearn its habits.

Those habits have had a good reason for being there. Anxious thoughts and anxious feelings keep us alive. They put us on standby to deal with anything that gets in the way. It’s going to take some convincing to show them that actually, the only thing getting in the way, are them.

Don’t try to do all of these strategies at once. Trying to keep a hold of so many different things will make your mind do the equivalent of throwing its hands in the air and walking away. Instead, choose one at a time and do it for a short while at a time. Small steps, but important ones. If you try to do them all at once, there is the risk of it feeling too hard. When things feel difficult, it is normal to run back to what’s familiar. The way around this is to go gently. Here’s how …

Dealing with Anxiety – Using the power of an anxious mind. 

Anxiety is the power of the mind against the mind. That power is your greatest asset – and it’s an exceptional one. Now to claim it back so you can use it in a way that will build and strengthen you.

  1. Be present. Be where you are, not where your anxiety wants to take you.Anxiety works by using a solid collection of ‘what-ifs’ and ‘maybes’ to haul even the strongest, bravest mind from a present that feels manageable and calm, to a future that feels uncertain and threatening. Experiment with staying fully present in the moment. Anchor yourself by opening up your senses. What do you see, feel, hear, taste, know? Stay with what is actually happening, rather than what might happen. If this feels uncomfortable, put a time limit on it, let’s say, two minutes to start with. Spend this time fully experiencing the world as it is around you now.Every time you do this, you will be strengthening your ability to pull back from the anxious thoughts that steal you away from the safety and security of where you are. Try to get into a regular practice each day, for however long you can – two minutes, five minutes, ten minutes – it doesn’t matter. There’s no right amount, but the longer the better. The main thing is to keep doing it. The brain strengthens and rewires with experience, and this is an experience that is so strengthening and healthy, your brain will love for it. Try: ‘Right now, I’m here and I’m safe. I see the sky. I feel the breeze against my skin. I hear my footsteps’
  2. Be patient. Don’t be in a hurry to change your thoughts and feelings.Thoughts and feelings will come, they will stay, and then they will go. No thought or feeling stays forever. Be patient and know that whatever you are feeling, or whatever you are thinking, it will pass.Experiment with being fully present, without needing to push away any thoughts or feelings.There is no anxious feeling and no anxious thought that is stronger than you. However big they feel, you will always be stronger and more resilient. Be patient. Be open. Be curious. See what wisdom lies at the end of your anxious thoughts and feelings if you stay with them, rather than fight them. Let them stay for long enough to realise that you have no need for them today.  Try: ‘An anxious thought. That’s okay – you’ll leave when you’re ready.’
  3. Be an observer. Watch your thoughts and feelings without engaging with them. Anxiety has a way of drawing you in and making you engage with every anxious thought that comes in thinking distance of you. It’s exhausting! Experiment with standing back and watching your thoughts as an observer, knowing that when they are ready, they will pass. Sometimes we need to engage with thoughts and feelings, and sometimes we need to stand back and wait for them move on. Try imagining your thoughts and feelings as a bubble, and then watch them float by.Experiment with letting them be, without needing to change them, understand them, or talk yourself out of them. Imagine them hovering in the air around you, without becoming a part of you. Just let them be, without holding on too tightly. When they are ready to go, let them go.Think of it like this – rather than standing in the middle of a thunderstorm, trying to change the direction of the wind, imagine yourself watching that storm through a window, knowing that it will pass. Try: ‘There’s a thought about what might happen if it rains on the holiday. Look at that. Didn’t know that was there.’‘A feeling about going to the interview. Interesting.’
  4. Trust your anxiety. Know that it won’t hurt you. There are a lot of reasons anxiety feels so awful. Two of the big ones are because it comes with a bunch of ‘unknowns’, and because the physical feelings don’t make sense. A curious, strong, thoughtful mind will try to put these feelings and thoughts in context, because the idea that they are free-floating and not attached to anything feels even worse. You might find yourself wondering if your physical symptoms are a sign of something more serious. You might wonder if that ‘bad feeling’ means something bad is actually going to happen. You might worry about the worry (this is common with anxiety) – what’s driving it, how to you stop it.  that your anxiety isn’t a sign of something bigger. This is hard to do but the more you practice it, the stronger you will be at calming your anxious thoughts and not believing the messages they contact. Anxiety is there as a warning, not a prediction. Feel the security and safety of what that means for you.Try: ‘My heart feels as though it is pounding through my chest. This is anxiety. It’s not a symptom of something bigger. I’m safe.’
  5. Trust yourself. You are strong. You are resourceful.You will cope.You always have.Trust that whatever happens, you can deal with it – because you can, you absolutely can. This might not feel real for you at first, and that’s okay. Go with it and see what the experience has to give you. This is a learning process and it will take time. Underlying all worry, anxiety and stress is fear that we won’t be able to cope. Fear of failure, for example isn’t fear of the failure but fear that you won’t cope with the failure. Ditto for rejection, making a wrong decision – anything. You will cope. You’ve proven it over and over. See what happens when you move towards trusting that. If it doesn’t feel real, pretend until it does. From the outside it will look the same anyway.Try: ‘Whatever happens, I will cope. I always have.’ 
  6. Meet your anxiety where it is, without needing you or it to be different. It’s paradoxical, but sometimes, the more we try to change something the more energy we give it, and the more it stays the same. (Keep telling yourself not to think of pink gorillas. Try really hard not to think of them. Keep telling yourself to stop thinking of pink gorillas. See how that works?)Anxious thoughts take up a lot of precious head space. They draw on our feelings, focus, thoughts and imagination. The more we try to make sense of them and control them, the more they feed into anxiety. Instead, experiment with being with your anxiety as it is, without needing to change it. Acceptance doesn’t make a feeling stronger or more enduring. It stops giving it energy.What you focus on is what becomes powerful. The more you focus on something, the more it flourishes and expands.Try to be with your anxiety without pushing against it. Don’t force it to go or to be different than it is. This will let you understand your anxiety more, which will bring it out of the dark and into a space in which you can deal with it.This isn’t easy, but it’s powerful. Try it in little bits and work up from there. Start with letting your feelings be as they are for two minutes, or however long feels okay for you. Sit with them, without needing them to be different. Then if you want to, after that you can give them your attention and try to turn them into something else. When you can, let them be as they are again.See how this feels, then when you’re ready, work up to longer.Try: ‘I am having a worried thought. My hands are clammy. My mouth is dry. This is anxiety].And that’s okay.’
  7. Clear your filter.Messages and experiences from the past have a way of changing the filter through which we look at the rest of the world. This is the way it works for all of us – anxiety or no anxiety.Try to approach experiences and moments as though you are experiencing them for the first time.Even if you have been in many similar situations before, none of them will be exactly like this one.Notice the differences between what is and what has been. With every experience, you are changed somehow – wiser, braver, stronger, more capable, sometimes more anxious, more worried, more fearful. Be open to the new possibilities that can come from this new experience, because that’s what it is – a new experience.For example, if you have had a painful breakup, there might be a tendency to hold back from loving wholeheartedly again. New people and new relationships might feel risky. This is completely understandable, and staying away is a move that will keep you safe, but it will close down the possibilities and promise that are waiting for you to find them. Growth happens when we open ourselves up to ‘what is’, rather than letting new experiences be coloured by ‘what has been’. Try: ‘This is a brand new experience. I’m open to discovering what will unfold for me here.’‘This reminds me of all the times I’ve had to meet new people. These people are different. I’m different. This experience is different.’
  8. Surrender. Let go of the need for certainty, even if it’s just for a moment.  The future is always uncertain, so anxiety has a pretty easy time of causing a stir. Not everything will go to plan and that’s okay, but the more we try to control things, the more we tend to realise how little control we have. This will feel uncomfortable at first, so start with surrendering to the uncertainty for a small amount of time. Experiment with letting go of needing to control the moment, the future, the past, or the people around you. The more you are able to lean in to your uncertainty and tolerate it, the less power it will have over you.Try: ‘I don’t know what will happen if I have to change plans. And that’s okay.’

And finally …

Think of these strategies like drops in a bucket. The first time you try them, you might not notice much. Same with the second time, and the third time. Eventually though, the more you experiment with them and the more you use them, the more capacity you will have to harness the strength of your wild and beautiful mind and make it work more in your favour. You will learn that you will always have what it takes and that anxiety is a feeling that comes and then it will go, just like a bad weather day. You’re a fighter – you’ve been fighting anxiety and winning for a while now. You’re strong, brave and resilient and you have everything you need inside you to deal with anything that might stand in your way.

Anxiety Is Not A Choice (So Please Stop Telling Us To ‘Chill’)


By Tanya on Wednesday, April 4, 2018

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Many people think that individuals with anxiety or depression can wake up one day and decide to ‘get better’. That we can wake up one day and decide to ‘smile, chug coffee, and deal with it’.

I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but anxiety isn’t something that we can just ‘turn off’. Anxiety isn’t something that we can choose to have on a Monday, and choose to not have it on a Sunday. Anxiety isn’t a decision. It isn’t a voluntary thing that we want to have in our lives, day in and day out.

It isn’t a choice.

Some days, we are free from it. We think we are in the clear, and maybe, just maybe, it will be gone for good. But, it creeps up when we aren’t looking. It shows up in the darkest corners of our minds. It jumps out in front of us right when we are getting comfortable. It shocks us to the core over and over again, without any warning.

We can’t just ‘choose to be happy’. We can’t just ‘chill out’ or ‘smoke a joint and relax’. Anxiety doesn’t have a pause button on our minds. Depression doesn’t have a shut off button on our brains. And they most definitely do not have any eject buttons.

By telling us to just ‘relax’ or ‘chill’, you are downplaying our illness. You are downplaying the significance it has on our daily lives. And you are saying that anxiety, is not something to take seriously. That it’s not a real ‘illness’, and that it’s not something to truly worry about.

Would you tell someone with a broken leg, to stop overreacting and to ‘just keep walking’? Would you tell someone with cancer to ‘just smile’ and to ‘let it go’? Would you tell someone with MS or with chronic pain to ‘just relax and stop being so dramatic’? I don’t think so. 

So please, stop telling us to smile when we don’t know how. Stop telling us to turn on upbeat music and choose to be happy. Stop telling us that we have nothing to worry about, when that is all we know how to do. Stop judging how we feel, when you have idea what we are going through.

You will never know how we feel unless you spend a day in our shoes, and a day in our minds. You will never know what we go through inside of our brains every second of the day. You will never know how it feels to be plagued with a dark cloud that follows you around all the time.

And you will never know how it feels to fear for your life, to constantly be in a panic, and to constantly be filled with ‘what if’s?’.

So before you try to make us feel better by telling us to ‘chill’, please remember that anxiety is a mental illness. Depression is a mental illness. It is an illness. Not an outlook on life. Not a ‘stage’ we are going to get out of. And not a cry for attention.

Believe me, if we wanted to, we would relax. We would chill. We would stop our thoughts from entering dangerous territory. Believe me. We would ‘take a chill pill’ if we could. If we had the ability to, we would do it as fast as we could.

This Is What ‘Self-Care’ REALLY Means, Because It’s Not All Salt Baths And Chocolate Cake


By Brianna WiestUpdated June 8, 2019

Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from livingto do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

The act of self-care has become yet another thing women are expected to be good at. Did you use the right filter for that ‘gram of your impeccably prepared acai bowl? Are the candles you just lit in your Snap story made from organic hand-poured soy or are they that mass-produced factory shit? And how can we stem the inevitable capitalist tide from turning something as simple as self-care into yet another thing to be bought and sold? These are all things I wrestle with as I order Dominos in sweatpants under the guise of ‘being good to myself.’ – quote via Amil Niazi

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.

When You Love Someone, You Rearrange Your Priorities


By Holly RiordanUpdated July 28, 2019

Alivia Latimer

When you love someone, you place them on top of your list of priorities. That doesn’t mean everything else in your life becomes irrelevant. It doesn’t mean you ditch your closest friends because your person is the only one worth hanging out with. It doesn’t mean you slack during work hours because you are too distracted to pay attention anything other than your love. It doesn’t mean you give up on your dreams and sacrifice your morals in order to make room for your person.

It means you spend time with them. It means you take their feelings into consideration. It means you care about their happiness as much as your own.

When you love someone, you cannot spontaneously choose the option that makes your day better without sparing a thought about them. You cannot recklessly make selfish decisions that are going to impact them as well. You have to take the time to think about whether accepting a coworker’s invitation to grab drinks and coming home late is worth making your person worry about where you have been and ruining the dinner they have waiting for you. When you love someone, there are tough decisions you are going to have to make on a daily basis.

However, putting someone on the top of your priorities list doesn’t mean they are your main priority every single day. There are going to be days when you have an important meeting and cannot text them back when they have an urgent question for you. There are going to be weekends when you leave them bored and alone because you promised a friend you would go out for a birthday dinner.

Your person cannot expect you to drop everything for them. They cannot expect you to give up your entire life for them. They cannot expect you to put them first every single day because that is not the way the world works.

But, generally, you should be placing them first. Generally, you should care about their happiness above all else.

When you love someone, you never make them feel like second best. You avoid staring at your phone during dinner while they are trying to have a conversation with you. You avoid spending too much time away from them. You avoid hurting their feelings with short answers and cold shoulders because seeing them cry would make you cry.

When you love someone, you promise to take good care of them, even if that means you are going to have extra work to do. You plan dates. You answer texts. You show up on time. You surprise them with tokens of affection. You never feel like you are wasting energy on them. You feel like your energy is being put to good use.

When you love someone, you make sure they are appreciated. You make sure they are acknowledged. You make sure they feel like an important piece of your world because once they start to wonder how much you really care it won’t be long until they leave.

Maybe All I Need Right Now Is Myself


By Rania NaimUpdated August 1, 2019

Polo Raeli

Maybe right now I don’t need love. I don’t need a man. Maybe I just want things that are wrong for me at the moment.

Maybe I still need to expand my horizons, travel across different oceans, meet more people who will inspire me and just have the freedom to choose where to go, who to be and what to do without having another human being distorting my perfect picture.

Maybe I still need to learn more about what kind of love I want. Do I want a traditional kind of love? The one that’s safe and steady. Or do I need an adventure? A wild kind of love. A love that can’t be tamed.

Maybe I still need to know if I’m trying to find love or if I’m just trying to understand my heart. Maybe I need more time to figure out what my heart really needs. Maybe I just need to cleanse my heart from all the damage that I’ve caused and all the cracks I stabbed in it. Maybe I need to love my heart the way no one else knew how.

Maybe I need to be for myself everything I’ve been asking people to be for me. Maybe I need to be my person for now. Hold my own hand. Hug myself to sleep. Learn to be my biggest fan.

Maybe I just need myself right now because anyone who comes on my ship might drown. Maybe I just need to sail away by myself because no one knows how to guide me. No one knows where I belong.

Maybe God keeps leaving me alone for a reason. Maybe he doesn’t want another person to distract me from myself. Maybe he keeps reminding me that I’ll never find what I’m looking for if I can’t find myself.

See, I believe there are two kinds of people in this world; the ones who grew up craving stability, safety and security and they are the ones who marry young. The ones who never have problems finding one partner after the other. And then there are the ones who grew up craving magic, adventure, euphoria and they are the ones who always struggle; the ones who don’t know what kind of lover they want, the ones who always want love but don’t know what to do with it once they find it.

Maybe I’m meant to experience more heartbreaks than love because I’m my own security. I’m my own safety. I’m the only one who knows how to calm the chaos in my mind and heal the wounds in my heart.

Maybe I’m just meant to kiss my own scars because I’m the only one who knows how deep they are. I’m the only one who knows how much they hurt.

Maybe all I need right now is me because I need to work on the relationship with myself. To fix the years I tormented myself. To mend the broken pieces. To reshape myself. To redeem myself.

Maybe for now, I’m the one for me because I need to learn how to live with that — all of it. I know I can live with myself forever, I just need to figure out how to make the most beautiful and most meaningful relationship of my life.

Having Depression And Anxiety Means Having A Brain Constantly At War With Itself

By Tanya on Sunday, November 4, 2018

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Torn between caring too much and not caring at all.

I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in 2016, the two “common colds” of mental illness. Don’t let that nickname fool you, though, because there is nothing common about the way these two work together to completely disrupt how my brain functions.

Sometimes, my brain seems to alternate between depressive and anxious episodes. I feel like I’m always trading off one for the other, rarely experiencing a “good” day where both remain relatively quiet. If my anxiety isn’t kicking into high-gear, my depression is, and vice versa.But oftentimes, these two demons will sync up together, both awakening from their slumbers simultaneously to go to war with each other with the intention of making my life a personal living hell.

Anxiety and depression essentially function as opposites to each other. This is a bit of an oversimplification, but generally, anxiety can be understood as an overactive mind and depression as an under-active mind. I have mostly learned how to cope when one or the other takes over, but what continues to challenge me is when the two strike at the same time.

Anxiety wants me to get up. If I don’t get up, someone will be disappointed, or I’ll miss a deadline, or everyone will think I’m lazy, or I’ll just keep spiraling and spiraling and spiraling.

Depression doesn’t let me get up. If I get up, I’ll have to fake a smile at everyone, or I’ll just hurt more people, or I won’t be able to focus because who can focus on anything when everything you do feels utterly meaningless?

When both flare up at the same time, I’m rendered totally and completely useless. Although my mind may be going a million miles a minute and I want nothing more than to be productive so I can ease some of the tension of worrying over my responsibilities, I physically can’t bring myself to get up. I can’t move forward because for every racing thought, there is a rope holding it back.

It hurts my head — it feels like my brain is literally pushing against my skull with nowhere to go. It’s dizzying and disorienting; and most of all, it is endlessly frustrating. It makes the simplest tasks impossible and I just want to scream at myself “WHY CAN’T YOU JUST DO THE THING?”

Dealing with the guilt is the hardest part because there’s nothing I can do but feel every painful sting of it. I WANT to be able to just function properly, but I can’t, and it makes me feel like the world’s biggest failure of a person.

Objectively, I know my brain is sick and that makes doing some things more difficult for me. But even so, I cannot escape the crushing weight of guilt for not being able to act like a “normal” person who can just DO “normal” things. There’s a siren going off telling me to get my responsibilities done, but there’s also a voice shouting that nothing I do matters so just roll over and die already, and the noise inside my brain leaves me completely paralyzed.

I’m still learning how to cope with when these two opposing forces in my head go up against each other. All I’ve really learned is that there’s nothing to do but go through it. I try to be gentle with myself, remembering that there are chemicals out of place in my brain and I am not a bad person for that. Speaking kindly to yourself when you’re fighting mental illness is a lot easier said than done, but I’m trying.

What Anxiety Actually Is, Because It’s More Than ‘Just Worrying’

So frequently I lay awake in my bed. My mind cannot slow down. I toss and turn over and over. My bed is next to a window, so it is nice to see the moon and stars. Reading, writing and a snack sometimes helps though.(especially the snack part hahah)

I desire to love and spread love how Jesus would love!

This Lights my heart on fire!!

But when my heart is unable to reach you…

Mine starts to shatter.

I am much more aware of my conscious state. This has been helping me learn and expand my mind and understanding of energy. Through this, I learned I was an Empath…. I HAD NO IDEA!

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Steps to Take Back Your Healing

However, if you do give up your healing, you can take it back by

  • acknowledging that you gave it up
  • repent for giving it up
  • ensuring you have on your spiritual armour
  • then stand on the word of God using the authority you have been given and take back what has been stolen. Rebuke and resist him and he will flee, James 4:7.
  • be on guard for he will come back at you until he knows you are serious about keeping your healing. Stand steadfast as you rebuke and resist him.

Repentance is key. Without repentance, the enemy will continually barge against you and you will wonder why you can’t win the victory. So, remember, repentance, then rebuke and resist.

Grow your faith to be strong in the Word. It is your faith that needs to stand firm, not someone else’s when you need to do battle.

You Have To Experience The Wrong Kind Of Love, In Order To Appreciate It When It’s RightBy Bianca Sparacino

This article, was a hard one for me to read. For my heart and spirit have been torn so recently. I relate to her words but it was hard to read the end for me.. Now I am 24 and instead of love.. I have experienced #metoo …..again… It is hard for me now. But I thank God for her story becuase I pray one day I do find Love.

Just not now.. my heart and soul need time to heal..

“I’m Tired and Angry but somebody should be”

I will need some time to process still.. But I plan to talk more about my experiences, mistakes; actions I regret or wish I would have made. I want to be HONEST!

Because how else will people truly heal and grow. We need Honesty.

In the end, God will not let you down.

By Rania Naim

Beautiful Words!!

Life will bring pain emotionally and physically. I have realized when I do not put God first; those situations get very overwhelming and complicated. And never ending.. To grow in life we will experience a lot of trial and error. It’s hard on your heart when you realize the mistake you made. BUT as long as you acknowledge it and make a change. Then God can Bless you. If you are willing to open up your heart, God can help with anything you need. You must learn from your mistake, set it down. step up and try again.

When I put God first, I can feel Him guide me. No matter what is happening. Although, just because I put God first does not mean I will be perfect.. I will still make mistakes. Except now, God can guide my mistakes and turn it into a positive learning experiences. GOD wants us to be Happy and feel Loved! But without the pain… How would we understand His love and patience?

I have a great idea in mind for my future! I truly believe God put this on my heart for a reason. I know it will not turn out exactly how I think. And that is Okay. Because I know, the Desire my God put on my heart is Grander than I could ever Imagine!

I Trust and fully Surrender to my GOD! It can be kind of exciting.. To live on the edge and just keep running towards God. And you never know what He’s got for you next!

Have FAITH! It will all be okay!

I Forgive You For Not Loving Me The Way I Loved You

Question I asked myself when I was getting out of a relationship.. How does GOD feel when He sees me constantly unhappy.

And I heard GOD say: I love you more than this. I have greater plans for you.

It is time to move forward

One day I will find him

If you are in the process of healing, Don’t miss these 5 steps

Strong Girls Don’t Always Realize How Strong They Are

My Reflection:

One day at a time.

I desire to do some research about breathing techniques.

Strong girls need to look at their past… You made it through that.


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